Spring Clean Your Relationship
1. Reattune to Your Relationship
Now that the rush of the holidays are over and you are officially in your 2019 rhythm, let’s reattune to the relationship. Here are some questions to guide you and your partner:
- Where does the relationship feel strong?
- When/How are we connecting the most?
- Where is an area for improvement in our relationship?
- Where is an area I can support and understand you better?
If there are any areas that need extra attention, it is important to plan time to address it. Also, notice how these answers may change over time as life evolves and changes.
2. Try Something New
Research has shown that when couples try new activities together, it tricks the brain into releasing all the “feel good” hormones like when you first fell in love. So, plan for something not in your usual routine. It can be anything from cooking a new recipe, reading a new book together, exploring a new part of your city, to traveling somewhere you’ve never been.
Create mini routines that help maintain the connection. Discuss how you would like to leave and come back together daily,when works best to spend some uninterrupted time together (even if it is just 20 minutes), and when/where for your next overnight getaway together. It is just as important to be intentional about scheduling vacations and date nights as it is to plan those micro daily connections. This helps maintain the connection even when life gets busy and chaotic.